Why Therapy?

ADG Marriage & Family Therapy • 21 August 2023

Many couples struggle with the idea of counseling for various reasons. One reason is that beginning counseling confirms the existence of a problem. Recognizing a problem can be very difficult. Nobody wants to admit there is something wrong with their relationship. However, the truth is that all couples have their ups and downs. It is a normal part of being in a close relationship with someone. The real problem arises when couples ignore what is going on, hoping it will just go away. Unfortunately, issues don’t resolve themselves on their own. Avoiding the conflict by sweeping things under the rug is not an effective approach, and in the long run, it can lead to more serious problems.

Benefits of Counseling

Couples counseling is private and confidential, so there is no need to worry about others finding out. All they may notice is that things between the two of you seem to be different, better, improved, and refreshed. You made an investment in this person when you married them and planned a future together. However, you may not have expected that maintenance would be necessary to keep the relationship in its best condition. Like everything else we own, our relationships require care and attention.

You Can’t Do It Alone

Don’t wait any longer thinking you can resolve this issue on your own. I often hear this sentiment, but if you could have done it without help, you probably wouldn’t be reading this. If you could have fixed things alone, your relationship would already be in a better place. It’s not too late to ask for help. Seeking the assistance of a professional to improve your marriage shows your commitment to your partner and your family. They should be your top priority.

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When Sadness is Rooted in Past Pain, EMDR Can Help Lift the Weight (Depression)

by ADG Marriage & Family Therapy • 8 January 2026
Have you tried everything to feel better - but the heaviness, the sell-doubt, or the hopelessness still lingers? Depression often connects back to unresolved pain: losses, failures, or childhood rejection. The brain tends to loop around these old experiences, reinforcing painful beliefs like "I'm not good enough" or "Nothing will ever change." EMDR interrupts these loops by targeting the painful memory and the negative beliefs tied to it. Instead of reliving the pain over and over, EMDR helps the brain reprocess the memory in a healthier way. As healing takes place, new, life-giving beliefs can take root-like "l am worthy" or "I can move forward." The burden lifts, and clients often feel more hopeful and alive again. You don't have to carry this weight forever. EMDR can help lift the burden and open the door to a lighter, freer life. Reach out today to begin.
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How EMDR Can Calm the Body's Overactive Alarm System (Anxiety Disorders)

by ADG Marriage & Family Therapy • 8 January 2026
Do you feel like your mind is always racing-like there's a constant alarm bell going off that you just can't shut down? Anxiety isn't just "in your head." It's your body stuck in fight-or-flight mode, convinced that danger is always around the corner. Life events, chronic stress, or past trauma can all flip this switch and keep it stuck on high alert. While coping skills help in the moment, they don't always resolve the deeper triggers. EMDR goes further by targeting those root triggers and retraining your nervous system to stand down. Clients often describe feeling calmer, lighter, and more in control after EMDR. It's not about erasing who you are - it's about finally letting your mind and body rest. Imagine living with a calmer mind and body. EMDR can help restore balance. Contact me to see how we can work together.
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Why Talk Therapy Alone Isn't Enough for Deep Childhood Wounds (Complex Trauma)

by ADG Marriage & Family Therapy • 8 January 2026
Have you ever wondered why, no matter how much insight you gain in therapy, the same old patterns keep showing up in your relationships? Complex trauma comes from repeated emotional wounds, often in childhood- neglect, criticism, emotional unavailability. These early experiences wire the nervous system to expect danger or rejection, leaving deep scars that shape how you see yourself and others. Traditional talk therapy builds awareness, but awareness alone doesn't always heal. That's because trauma lives not only in your thoughts, but also in your body and nervous system. EMDR works directly with those deep, unprocessed experiences so you can finally move beyond old scripts and live with more freedom. You don't have to keep repeating the past. Healing is possible. You don't have to live in the shadow of your past. EMDR offers a path to healing that goes deeper than words. Let's start that journey together.